Love – An understanding

"I love you"

"I cannot live without your love"

"Your love makes me complete"

These are some of the most common phrases used to describe love. Yet we see a lot of divorce and separation taking place in the world and people around us.

Do we truly understand the meaning of this word,"LOVE"

As per the dictionary love means:

noun

noun: love; plural noun: loves

1.       a strong feeling of affection.

·         a strong feeling of affection and sexual attraction for someone.

·         affectionate greetings conveyed to someone on one's behalf.

·         a formula for ending an affectionate letter.

2.      a great interest and pleasure in something.

3.      a person or thing that one loves.

4.      (in tennis, squash, and some other sports) a score of zero; nil.

It has become as empty as its meaning, nothing specific and not a direct guide to what the meaning actually is.

The origin of the word is from a German and old English word lufu, which means "desire".

From the definitions shared above we should ask our selves what is the meaning of I love you as a statement. I desire you, I cannot live without your desire, your desire completes me.

Which would seem so worthless for the love to exist forever, the marriage or the relation is bound to end when love has such a shallow interpretation.

Love is about giving and sharing. Not about wanting or taking. A relationship only will last the test of time when there are two or more people who would want to keep giving love to the other instead of being desirous of an expectation from the other.

Love is then a beautiful word that can create ripples in our relation and the person who we want to share the emotion with. It also makes us conscious of who we should love and care for.

LOVE 7, spend 7 minutes of your day telling the person who you think you love, why you love them. It is less than a percent of the time in a day and yet these 7 minutes are going to make the change that your relation has a need for. The choice is in your hands.

You can make the difference by just letting the love flow from a receiving to a giving. From a wanting to an offering. The river flows towards the person and you will see a change in your life. The life that you dreamt of, the love that you wanted by giving the love without any expectation of want.

Love 7 will be your help to change the way you make your life and your relation so much better.

Dark Light

The absence of light creates darkness. Darkness is not an object by itself but the presence of it creates the fear.

The world is changing more than we know it to be. The moments of joy are dulled by the gloom of death and destruction around us. There is so much hate in the world today that people are questioning the basic fabric of humanity.

I don't worry of their doubt, what I worry about is their silence. Like darkness exists only in the absence of light. Hate grows in the absence of love, war happens in the absence of peace. Murder happens in the absence of life.

We as the good people of society witness the brutality and hurt around us but what do we do? We stand and witness what happens around us without any action and do not act upon it to make a difference.

I see videos of the Taliban killing people. They were shooting at random and killing the innocent people, they have no soul to connect with. Their understanding of humanity is dull and dead. There is no glory in death and killing but do they understand this?

Looking at a closer distance, in our neighbourhood, we see people going through difficult times and yet we only stand as spectators to the event of their suffering. There is no remorse in our souls when we see the sufferings in our vicinity. Our selfish ego rides the surface to limit our action to the ones we love not to the soul we connect to.

Did we ever stop to ask ourselves why does this happen?

Times have been the same since the dawn of mankind or atleast what we have a recollection of history. Wars have been the passtime of many leaders and emperors. Murder and mayhem has always been society's mistress. Why are we making a hue and cry about it now?

The difference is obviously in the discovery of better modes and means of communication. The news of the death and ability of the damned are spread like wild fire through various mediums of communication, television, radio, internet and even mobile phones. We have come to day when we know everything that we are given to know in the shortest possible time.

The killing of an individual was only verbal news till about a few years ago but now has become a spectacle for us to witness and that is making a difference. But all these differences will be of no use until we take a stand to unite and curb the menace.

The difference of eliminating darkness is to spread light. To go into these areas and share the understanding of humanity and not religion. To share the capital and not the masses. To reach out to the ailing and not to kill them.

We will need to make a choice to make a change, only then can we see the light over come the darkness....

Thoughts and Actions

"A day of thought can be provoking as long as we make it an action."

I sit in my room with my gaze on the sky. Looking through the window the sky doesnt look the same as sitting under an open sky.

The clouds pass by and the trees whistle the air. The morning sun is bright and hot with no future to be bothered of. The noise of the breeze seems to be loud and clear. I wonder how the nature is in its being so casual and calm in it daily work.

There never seems to be an urgency to where and when the rains will fall, the sun will shine, the clouds get together or how the moon will look tonight. We are just admirers of the beauty that be.

The thoughts in our mind are the same, they come when the feel like and they idle away when they please. No matter how hard we try, the thoughts are always provoked to come to us when we least expect it. It could be an idea, a retrospect of events gone by or just a thought of tomorrow to come. What it is will never depend on what we expect or will to be. Its just there.

What happens to these thoughts? How are we to explore them and make positive use of these thoughts? 

A new form of thought then comes to mind of what we are to do with them.

A simple formula, not proven by science yet but a work in progress towards meeting our thoughts.

• List your thoughts on a paper and keep a track of it
• Make a chart of what you think of in the time your thoughts get to you.
• Focus on the positive thoughts and let go of the negative
• Please yourself with the positive thoughts by turning them into actions.

Remember we are only keeping positive thoughts to make it an action.

Track your actions

• Are my thoughts possible to action?
• What do you do to make your thought an action?
• How do I begin?
• What are my hurdles to progress? How can I over come them?

With these simple steps we learn how to channelise our thoughts and action the positive thoughts in our mind to better ourselves.

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