Of money or love

I was always on the cross roads to understand what life is about.

At the start of life, there is a lot of love and attention that we get showered from our parents, siblings, relatives, friends. Love becomes a need for us.

As we grow, the need changes to relationship, and in our adolescents we learn the ways of love with the opposite sex. The heartbreak, the emotional turbulence, the joy, the sadness and all in between.

Then we enter the phase of career and jobs. The act of relationship changes to Association. Love is measured by the amount you earn, relationship are forged not by the person but by the lifestyle we keep.

In India, we work very hard in getting married and we have to maintain social norms by getting married. The association is again not by the values a person has but by the lifestyle we lead. We choose a life partner not by their values but their Association of religion, caste, creed, colour of skin, lifestyle and sometimes we choose to break the line and do something different.

But in the end of the day, we lead our life by the dreams we had as a child. We create the life from a thought to the reality. In all this the question does arise. Was it for love or for money?

Only time will tell when we choose to make a difference in the lives of the person in the mirror and the truth. Life cannot be measured by love but by money. There is no love without money.

Harsh, as it may sound this is the truth of life. Not a single human soul exists without being judged for the amount of bank Balance they have or the property they manage.

It took me 37 years to learn this, I hope it helps you to learn it faster than me.

A Sad story of hate!

v  A boy winks at a girl in public

v  Girl is angry with the actions of the boy

v  Boy smiles and winks again at the girl

v  Girl is getting more angry at the boy

v  Boy approaches the girl

v  Girl is staring at the boy with anger

v  Boy reaches out and hugs the girl

v  Girl tries to free herself from the boy

v  Boy says something to the girl

v  Girl hugs the boy

v  Girl looks up to his face and smiles

v  They continue to hug

From the distance you hear a shout,

“Mommy, Daddy, look at me!!!”

Do you judge events in your life?

We are often faced with a lot of data that comes in front of us and we tend to assume the answer more quickly than should be.

These data have to be converted to information for it to make sense, more often than we can assume we choose to believe everything we read from sources that we may trust. This leads to problems of belief and understanding.

The information that we have is that there is a boy and girl who are not really friends with each other but then through the events, we realise they know each other and also have a child together. What does it convey?

Do we have a hate towards someone based on the data received or have we verified the information for us to love or hate someone?

Happiness Quotient

hahahahahaah!!!!

Smile! Its the way to cure the sick, to bring out the love in a person and more importantly to make life more pleasant.

Are we able to be happy 24/7? Would it be possible?

Yes, we can be happy 24/7 and yes, it is possible.

You have to understand the reasons for the emotions in your life and why we chose to be the way we are today. For every good there is a bad and for every moment of happiness, there is a moment of sadness. 

Why?

Because there has to be a balance in the universe and without sadness, you will not be able to understand the quotient of being happy. So how can you be happy 24/7 when you are also needed to be happy?

The answer is to be happy for every moment that you will experience. There is no good or bad, you have to experience each part of life in it's entirety. The experience was gift from the universe for you to learn something new for your life and you can make the difference when you take the time to realise the reason for it's occurrence.

A while ago, I had read a message shared on whatsapp of a bird who was cursed and wanted salvation from the pain. It reads as shared below:

There was a bird who lived in the desert; very sick, no feathers, nothing to eat and drink, no shelter to live and kept on cursing his life day and night.

One day, an Angel was crossing from that desert, bird stopped the Angel and inquired ” where are you going?” Angel replied, ” I am going to meet God”.

So bird asked,” Angel, please ask God when my suffering will come to an end? Angel said, ” Sure, I will” and bid goodbye to the bird. Angel reached God’s place and shared the message of bird to Him.
Angel told Him how pathetic the condition of bird is and inquired when the suffering of the bird will end. God replied, “For the next seven lifetimes, the bird has to suffer like this, no happiness till then”.
Angel said,” When bird hears this, he will get disheartened. Could You suggest any solution for this?”
God replied,” Tell him to recite this mantra….Thank you God for everything”. Angel met the bird again and delivered the message of God to the bird.

After seven days, the Angel passed the same path again and saw that bird was so happy; feathers had grown on his body, a small plant grew up in the desert area, a small pond of water was also there, the bird was singing and dancing cheerfully. Angel was astonished as to how this happened as God said for seven lifetimes, there is no happiness for the bird’… with this question in mind, he went to visit God.

Angel asked his query then God replied, “Yes, it was written there will be no happiness for the bird for seven lifetimes but this has happened because the bird was reciting the mantra ‘Thank you God for everything’ in every situation”.

“When bird fell down on the hot sand, it said… ‘Thank you God for everything’, when it could not fly it said…’Thank you God for everything, so whatever the situation was, the bird kept on repeating…’Thank you God for everything’ and therefore the seven lifetimes’ karma got dissolved in seven days”.

The story gives us a perspective of our life and where we are heading. Do we have to curse ourselves for the negatives that happen or do we have to learn from the negatives and make it positive?

The cure to be happy is to able to smile for our own benefit and learn the reasons for the sadness in our life, accept our karmic progression and build our esteem from there on.

Come attend our one day workshop of Happiness - A Quotient and you will get to witness the best part of your life. Your Smile!

Relationships - A Need or Greed!

We are human beings born with the need of being closely associated with another being. It could be our parents, our siblings, friends or associates. But we have to be associated with someone. We have studied, played, worked,  laughed and cried with the people we are associated with and feel close to.

Over the last few decades, the machine has taken over this need and is distancing us from the people we chose to make us feel happy or smile. Our talks are now chats, our meetings are virtual, our relationships are online and our smiles are now smileys. This void is giving us the feeling of loneliness, even though we have a 1000 friends on facebook we are still yearning for time to smile with a single person. We may be sharing a lot of smiles, but we are yearning to smile in the real world.

When the distance is created we are creating a void within our self and this leads to more complicated lifestyles. Our mental disorder leads to physical ailments and there on to extreme behaviours. The blue whale game is the recent example. While the game is only the tip of the iceberg, there is a bigger problem in hand. Why are we attracted to the online web and get entangled in it where we stop to miss the real world and live an empty life.

How do we cure this problem?

We need to understand the base of a relationship and why we want to participate in the process. It can be with your parents, siblings, a lover or spouse, friends or colleagues in your work place. The disturbance in a relationship is caused when there is less respect for the individual and there is a drain of the love that is being received.

A relationship is on the basis of respect and sharing of love, not of asking for love. Be it with a relative or with an unknown. The more we learn to give in terms of time, attention, respect and trust, the stronger the relationship builds and that is the key to it.

Sometimes, our greed of selfishness is what causes the relationship to break down and make dents which lead to a broken relationship.

How do we understand where to draw the line?

TART strategy - Time Attention Respect Trust

Time - When you are with a person face to face, dedicate the time to the person for all that the said moment is worth.

Attention - Give the person all the attention that you can allow the person to make them feel comfortable in your presence

Respect - Respect them for their views, not necessary that you have to agree to it. But it is their thinking and we should choose to agree that we can have opposing views to a single point.

Trust - Trust your instincts to make the right decision when you are here and allow you to trust the person with the resources available to you and give them an opportunity to trust you too.

Not a process that can be incorporated in a day but we are creating the path for us to develop it better.

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Life is for a smile, let's get some in our relationship too