Say what you need to say!!!

There have been times in our lives when we wished we could just open our mouths and blurt the first thought that came to our minds and say what we actually feel to the person in front of us. It might have been our boss, or our spouse or our parents or friends or anyone who we knew. But for some odd reason we were not able to speak it out loud and we were always held back by some stupid reason of guilt or pressure or just that we didnt want the other person to feel bad by our comments or just that we were so gutless to speak our minds out loud.

Today, when I look back and think if I ever experienced such an experience I realise I always spoke my heart out and was as blunt as a butter knife. There was no holding back to what the other person would feel or what the boss would think if I spoke out too loud but thats also the problem. Diplomacy has been my weakness and its not been a forte that I can boast of very proudly. Although, I am surrounded by people who are champions of diplomacy and have actually helped me improve in my diplomacy towards my work and family much better. These are the friends who wouldnt even tell me anything if I was as wrong as the left and didnt know what I was saying and when. But they did not want to hurt my feelings and have a bad regard towards them.

These same people wouldnt say anything wrong to their own family members because they felt that it was their obligation to keep their family members smiling. They had for some reason taken the burden on their shoulders to make sure that everyone was happy but themselves. The funny part was that while they tried to keep the others happy and kept themselves unhappy, they successfully managed to keep everyone disgusted and unhappy. Its when they realised what was the cause of it and took some small steps to change the present that the smiles started to return to everyone and they themselves were so much more happier than before. You may wonder what did they do?

Very simple, they spoke their hearts desire when it mattered. If they felt tired after a long day in the office and wanted to stay at home instead of going to a relatives house or eating at a restaurant, they just said it. The food or the meeting with the relative was not important the fact that they started to reject the others request for their happiness and started to focus on themselves gave them the pleasure of being independant and care free with responsibility.

So my word for all of you out there, say what you need to say when you need to say!!!